Toddler hood is a period of amazing growth and development. No longer babies, toddlers are eager to test their independence and explore their world. However, they lack reasoning and communication skills which often lead to frustration and inevitably, toddler temper tantrums. Many times this will lead to others criticizing our parenting skills. Even the most patient of parents will find themselves pushed to their limits by difficult toddler behavior. Thankfully, there are strategies that can help relieve the stress.
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First, look for ways to encourage their burgeoning independence. Let them try new tasks and give them as much free reign as possible to create and explore. Try to only step in when safety is an issue. Celebrate with them when they accomplish something new. Provide them choices on what to wear or eat or activities to do. Limit this to two choices as too many options can quickly become overwhelming.
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Second, notice when they appear to be frustrated and act quickly. Offer help, but if they refuse, suggest another option such as another sibling parent or grandparent stepping in to help. Try redirecting them to something more exciting. At this age, their attention span is short so using distraction can be a great tool for stopping an ensuing tantrum. Another helpful tip for cooling frustration is to get outside! Take a walk, play in a sandbox or blow bubbles.
And third, if you tried to quell the tantrum to no avail, remain calm and realize that this is normal toddler behavior. All toddler temper tantrums eventually end. In the meantime, focus on what is within your control. Make sure your toddler is in a safe environment. That may mean leaving a store or finding a private room. Explain that you are happy to help once they have calmed down. Then wait, remain calm and ignore your toddler’s actions until the storm has passed. Do not give into your toddlers demands or let your own emotions escalate your toddler’s tantrum.
Once the tantrum has passed, most children move on fairly quickly. Praise them for regaining control and move onto something fun. Remember that dealing with frustration is something children learn over time as their reasoning and communication skills improve.